Wednesday, August 02, 2006

So.... XMG isn't XMG anymore. He's GIAD (Guy I Am Dating). We are back on.... sorta. It's probably a mistake for me to agree but he wants us to date. He says that with time this whole thing will probably blow over. Don't ask me to define 'dating' because I'm not sure I can. He still likes me... I still like him... so we're going to date and see where it goes. So I'll go with it. See what happens. Live and learn right.

Something that has been on my mind the last little while I'm finally going to post. We all know I'm spoiled right. I'm spoiled by my Dad and by my friends. What I want to know is why. Not that I don't love it because duh of course I love it. I just don't understand it. What makes people want to spoil me. What do I do that inspires people to spoil me? I get random things bought for me. People do all kinds of things for me. When I ask why I'm told 'because you're you. You're awesome' but what I don't understand is WHY.

I know I'm a good person. I know I'm a caring person. I'm fun, smart and funny... it isn't that I think I'm a bad person or something. I just want to know what you all are seeing that makes you spoil me. lol

Edit: I quit the second job today. My last day for both jobs is Aug. 9. I'm so excited. This time there is no going back. If I was still only being scheduled a little bit I wouldn't have quit but the manager only followed that for a short time and then I was back on the schedule as much as before December. So this time I'm really leaving.


Anonymous Erika formerly Sunificus said...

grrrr. that's all I'm sayin..

10:12 AM, August 02, 2006  
Blogger Callie said...

I gotta agree with Sunshine.


11:06 AM, August 02, 2006  
Blogger lowk said...

I told callie that he'd wanna keep you as a friend with benefits till he finds out whether or not he can find a better his deal.

As for spoiling you, it's probably cause you come across as someone not quite grown-up yet and needs protection. You wont agree with that but you asked.

3:24 PM, August 02, 2006  
Blogger Danikabur said...

That's what I said. He says he isn't using me. Only time will tell.

You're right... ick I don't like that answer LOL

3:51 PM, August 02, 2006  
Blogger lowk said...

I only say it because I care enough to be honest with you. That's just me though, others have there own reasons. But take comfort in knowing I'll protect like family. (translation: I'll kick that muthas ass if he hurts you!)(Good excuse to visit eh?)

5:09 PM, August 02, 2006  
Anonymous Country Girl said...

You get spoiled?? By who?? Don't question TPTB just go with it girl!! It is not a mistake to be with him again, you have to follow your heart or you will end up lonely and living with 20 cats, trust me on this!! (okay so I don't live with 20 cats, but that is only cuz my landlord won't let me!) Anyway, you get the point. He is a dumbass for letting you go, he has had time to think about it and realize this and now in order to "save face" he has to ease back into things! Like I said, just go with it, see where it goes and enjoy yourself! But don't give him any nooky till he is ready to commit, you know about not giving the milk away for free right, he will never buy the cow if you do!

5:12 PM, August 02, 2006  
Blogger MYSTIC said...

I do not know who you trust but LOWK is giving you good advice. I say that because you do "know him" and I think you trust his advice. I don't offer my own because you don't have a basis for trusting me because you don't know me. But I do agree with LOWK..You are being used and you are allowing yourself to be used because you are following your heart and not using your head. Not to be mean, just don't want to see you hurting continuously about someone not worth the effort. He's already showed his hand so to speak. Move on! There really are nice guys out there...just don't settle for less. Your worth it! As for the spoiled the preceeding sentence.

6:38 AM, August 03, 2006  
Blogger Penny Shagwell said...

This is something only you can decide, Dani.

You'll get tons of advice in here - all from different points of view, but I'd have to find out from GIAD what changed his mind.

I wouldn't want to be in the relationship, but then you're not me.

As for being spoiled, I can't comment because I don't know know you well - however, lowk's comment seems valid.

We love ya and want to protect you.

6:42 AM, August 03, 2006  
Blogger Motherdear said...

GIAD - Good luck with that, Kitten! To give the guy the benefit of the doubt, maybe he just realized he was a putz. But I am a little concerned about his attitude that he can 'judge' you for things. But then again, I don't know the situation. So I'll just say "Good luck" and "Protect your heart"!

Spoiled - Truly?? People spoil you??? Are you sure you aren't just grateful for any little thing folks do for you, because you don't feel you deserve it? (Which many also relate to your picking men who aren't always the best for you - you don't believe you deserve any better.) Just sayin', have no idea if it's true or not.

Callie, Lowkie - do people really spoil Dani?

6:53 AM, August 03, 2006  
Anonymous Country Girl said...

I can vouch for her being spoiled! Just ask her about her 2 trips to California in 2 months!! :)

9:15 AM, August 03, 2006  
Blogger Danikabur said...

Thanks for all the comments everyone. I think some of what most of you are saying is true. Some of it not.

Being loved and protected is not a bad thing. I just wonder if I give back enough to deserve the spoiling. I'm pretty sure that most of the people that spoil me irl would have similar answers.

Country Girl... the first trip was taken care of by ME. :P You're right though... I was spoiled by getting the second trip. :D

9:56 AM, August 03, 2006  
Blogger lowk said...

MD, she isnt spoiled. Just well loved.

Dani, you only get what you deserve and inspire.

3:31 PM, August 03, 2006  
Blogger Danikabur said...

THanks Lowk.

4:37 PM, August 03, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

spoiled? dunno about that... but maybe rotten. ;)


i like the term XMG better than GIAD... he needs to proof that he can HANDLE THE TRUTH!!!


9:57 PM, August 03, 2006  
Blogger Chris said...

In my opinion you can not spoil girls. That is how I try to treat my daughters, anyway. :)

2:19 AM, August 04, 2006  
Blogger Motherdear said...

Chris is such a consummate DAD! I love it!!!

We'd all spoil you if we got the chance, Kitten! Cuz we all love you!

3:41 AM, August 04, 2006  
Blogger MYSTIC said...

Does Chris know that he has a dog on his head?

12:12 PM, August 04, 2006  
Blogger lowk said...

the question is does the dog know chris is on his butt?

12:37 PM, August 04, 2006  
Anonymous Country Girl said...

lowk!! You make me laugh! that is funny. . . . poor dog!

1:36 PM, August 04, 2006  
Blogger Danikabur said...


Thanks again everyone.

3:06 PM, August 04, 2006  

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