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Everyone knows the unwritten rule that you don't go after a guy that a friend likes right? At what point is it ok to not follow that rule? If girl likes boy but for whatever reason boy isn't going to date girl is it then ok to go after friends boy? Or is that boy hands off until friend is over liking him and has moved on? Does girl have a right to be upset at friend for going after a guy she likes? When he doesn't want her? What if it's not the first time friend went after guy that girl likes?
Edit: I just got the oppurtunity to tell the boss that if he is going to eat apples he has to eat them in his office. I also told him why. Maybe he will be safe from my wrath now. We'll see what happens the next time he has an apple.
Edit: I just got the oppurtunity to tell the boss that if he is going to eat apples he has to eat them in his office. I also told him why. Maybe he will be safe from my wrath now. We'll see what happens the next time he has an apple.
posted by Danikabur at 11:17 AM
7 Comments:
pI think that if a friend likes a guy that you like then she should talk to you about it first. Its all about respect. You can voice your feelings and so can she. As far as should she wait until you no longer like him, well thats all about perception. How long have you liked this guy? Have you been actively pursuing him? Was there ever any chance something might happen between the two of you? If the answer is no then you do have a right to be upset because hey you liked him, but I don't think you should completely write her off for it. I do however firmly beleive that she should mention it to you first. If she sees your upset, then maybe she should hold off so you can discuss it further and know that you'll be okay with it.
I guess the thing is.. trust. She can have the guy. That's fine. I think the problem I have is that she didn't talk to me before starting to go after him. It's someone that we've known for a while and never did she have an interest in him. Then suddenly after hearing me talk about him a lot she decides to start hanging out with him. She did pretty much the same thing once before and she made the same apologies. I accept that she and he 'might' be starting something... I just don't feel I can trust her based on how she went about it.
I think that if she only started liking this guy after you mentioned him alot. Then maybe she just should'nt be trusted. When it happened before, did she always like the guy or just went after him after she knew how you felt?
She claimed she had forgotten I had a crush on him. She had seen him quite a few times though. She didn't mention liking him though.
This time she said 'you still like him??' even though two nights before I had mentioned still liking him. Which would have been the right time to tell me she was into him. I think she waited because she wanted it to be too late for me to ask her not to go for him.
I WOULD NOT WORRY ABOUT THIS AT ALL. SHE HAS A TRACK RECORD NOW. DON'T TALK ABOUT GUYS YOU LIKE AROUND HER....DA! AND NEVER INTRODUCE HER TO ANYONE BUT DUDS. TELL HER THAT HE HAS A GREAT PERSONALITY AND LIKES DOGS...OR CATS.
Yeah I definitely don't plan on introducing her to anyone. The burn is that I introduced her to all my friends. Most of the people that she hangs out with... her roomates even.. were introduced to her by me.
She called me up and apologized again. Told me she feels really bad about it and isn't going to see the guy anymore. I told her that it's too late.. I don't trust her anymore. She told me that she doesn't feel right seeing him. Now I was thinking hmmm if she doesn't feel right about it and ends it that she maybe really does feel bad.
Half an hour later she texted me that she does feel bad for doing that to me but is still going to go for it with him. I guess she was just saying she'd end it to make herself feel better and wasn't being truthful when she said it didn't feel right to continue it.
It really sucks to find out you can't trust someone you really thought you could. After the things I've done for her this definitely feels like a slap in the face...
Ok, I have a friend and she has a crush on a guy. He'd never go for her and she knows it. Has even said as much. AND she has a boyfriend. He has expressed interest in me. I have no desire whatsoever to go there, Why? because she met him first, expressed her interest and right there that makes him UNattractive to me.
Regardless of the dynamics there will be some hurt feelings and there are enough guys in the world to be fucked over by than to have to take up with one of your friends dudes.
IMO, anyone who repeatedly goes for whats yours has issues and need to get over them. AND needs to get away from christine cause I'll kick their butts! xoxo
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